Store a couple in your purse and in your nightstand.
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This will make her feel like she can't depend on you. If you just want to dim the lights instead of lighting candles, then that's fine too. It takes a bit longer for things to reach a natural progression. If your girl is barely comfortable with kissing, then you shouldn't bring up the "s-word" for a while. Show an interest in all of her; not just her body. Respect his answer if he says no.